This archived article was written by: Jasmine Petit
Something that is essential for any relationship to work is trust. If you don’t have trust, you do not have a good relationship.
“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships,” writes Stephen R. Covey.
However trust is earned, not given freely, most people forget that. Trust is also hard to get back once it has been lost.
“Trust keeps us in a positive mental framework. When you trust each other you feel self-confident. The feeling of believing others is electrifying. It not only provides sense of security, but provides new zeal to fight the vagaries of life. Trusting each other gives a sense of deep bonding,” writes SanJay in Importance of Trust in Relationships.
Also remember while communicating; a relationship is like a telephone call when it comes to communicating. If you are the only one talking then the conversation is dull and it does not go anywhere then eventually ends.
“Real communication isn’t explaining your entire day to someone, because frankly, 99 percent of the time, your days aren’t that interesting. True communication spans far beyond spoken words. It’s verbal and mental, as well as even physical,” writes Prior Aphter.
You and the person you are dating are both receivers and senders of information about your relationship. So it is important that you send and receive information correctly. Just because you sent a message to your partner, does not mean they received the same message you sent.
In every relationship the lines of communication break away at this point. A guy may say to a female, “I really like you,” but the message the girl gets is “I love you, I want to marry you and live in a big house with a white picket fence.” So maybe that is not always the case, but it can happen.
It can also go in reverse. Have you ever told a guy you were not interested, but he took that to mean you were not interested in talking to him in the daytime so he pestered you all night with senseless texts.
“Communication is definitely not a one-way street. The “phone-lines” must run both ways. You could sit your partner down and talk to him/her all day long about how you feel, and about where you think this relationship is going. But if you don’t listen, then all your words are meaningless because they know you aren’t willing to listen to them and you will not hear them out because you are too involved with yourself to allow anyone else to join in on the conversation,” continued Aphter.
So as important as it is to talk, it is more important to listen, because if you do not, you can miss important information that your partner is trying to send you.
Stay happy, stay living and stay in love.